The fundamental source of the conflict.

"Feminism is equality."
"Why aren't you a feminist?"
"Feminism helps men too!"

In order to understand the conflict, we have to dig a little deeper than that. The media, our politicans, our police and our society have been deeply affected by the efforts of feminism for decades.
It's all over the place. Young men in college are told, point blank that they're rapists. Or potential rapists.

How would a woman feel if she were told every day "Don't be that woman, don't abuse children." 53.6% of child abusers are women, but this isn't thrown in women's faces every day. Screaming it at them from posters and flyers and television public service announcements. Feminists claim that they don't hate men, but the efforts in the media and the actions of society tell a very different tale, that they consider men, as a gender, to be abusers who have to be reminded not to abuse.

Until the majority of feminists can let go of portraying men as default perpetrators, their claims to be about equality are just a smokescreen. They don't hate men, but they do hate men who don't fall into line like good little feminists.