Gotcha!

I'm reluctant to even address these types of "arguments". It's one Gotcha! after another, where they dredge up anything and everything in an attept to point the politically correct finger and justify their claims that men's rights is homophobic, transphobic, etc, etc, ad nauseum.

But.

I'll dissect the latest from Futrelle, since it's topical, and this Gotcha! mentality tends to irritate me to no end.

http://wehuntedthemammoth.com/2014/06/19/why-is-a-voice-for-men-giving-a-platform-to-one-of-canadas-leading-opponents-of-gay-and-lesbian-rights/

Which rights? Right from the article,

Gay marriage isn’t a men’s right, according to AVFM conference speaker Anne Cools

I recognized this as a Gotcha! gambit from the start, and so did a little googling.

http://www.religioustolerance.org/hom_marb51.htm 

Of note:

Honorable senators, as I said before, I wish to register my strenuous opposition to Bill C-38. I believe that the issues have been falsely framed as Charter rights issues and equality issues. Marriage is not now, and never has been, a right. It has always been a grand privilege, with its origins as a sacrament of the church, governed by the canon law, received from the civil law into the common law. No sacrament of the church is now, or has ever been, a right.  

 Here, Anne Cools points out that Marriage of any kind is not a Right, but a privilege granted to religious unions.

This is a Gotcha! move, in an attempt to paint Anne Cools as a homophobe. A Post Hoc rationalization of their prejudices.

I may disagree with Anne Cools on some points. Personally, I think that the definition of marriage should be children. In a nutshell, I think that hetero and homosexual couples should be able to join in a civil union, and that union "graduates" to a marriage when children are born or adopted. A marriage should come with a complete set of obligations to those children.

But just because Anne Cools has a certain opinion, and also has a technical reason to object to gay marriage, doesn't mean she's against gay rights, and certainly not the homophobe that these Gotcha! arguments imply.

But there is no room with these people for debate or dissent. Agree or be cast down as the heretic.